What stories do you tell yourself that hold you back from achieving fulfilment?
Perhaps you want to achieve something at work or in your business but worry about what people will think of you for going for it. If you want a promotion, do you worry about being accepted at that next level? Will people think you’re out of your depth to even apply? Will you be seen as the skilled professional you are, or will you be dismissed out of hand?
Thoughts like this can hold you back from taking the next step.
We worry about how the people around us will perceive us – and when we do that, it holds us back from having the impact we can make through our professional services on the people who really need it.
Many moons ago it was suggested that I apply to become a Justice of the Peace. I was working within the juvenile justice and care systems at...
Standing up in front of a group of prospective clients and/or potential collaborators is such a useful thing to do, and yet so many business owners shy away from it or worse still, do it badly.
Having a well-constructed 15-minute presentation up your sleeve allows you to say ‘yes’ at the drop of a hat when an opportunity to present your business comes up, perhaps at a networking meeting or at a professional seminar.
Speaking about your business gives you an opportunity to present yourself as an expert in your field and will ultimately help you get more clients – when you do it well.
I’ve heard a lot of business owners give lots of valuable information, and often do so with confidence and clarity, and yet the audience remembers little of what was said.
Putting your content into a simple structure that can be easily followed, understood and remembered will make you more memorable than the next speaker...
What does ‘being a voice’ mean to you?
For me, it’s about getting out there to speak your truth, share your story and convey your message – not waiting for others to get there first.
What do you feel strongly about enough to speak out about? What’s been your experience of life that others would benefit from hearing?
When are you more comfortable being an echo, happy to go along with the opinions of others?
To be original on every single issue would be exhausting and maybe even impossible. Being a voice requires time for thought and consideration. Save your energy and focus for the things that are really important to you.
Perhaps it’s also about not taking ‘no’ for an answer. If someone tells you that you can’t do something, you have a choice on whether you listen to them. You don't always have to take up...
If you’re a small business owner, do you have a niche?
If not, maybe, like me, you’ve had various business coaches niggling at you to find one.
Maybe you’ve resisted and continue to work with anyone you possibly can.
Maybe, again like me, you’ve experimented with several niches along the way.
Why have a niche?
Here are some really good reasons I’ve been given:
So why is finding a niche so hard?
Certainly, in those early days of your business, you probably didn’t want to ‘narrow...
If you’re anything like me, you’ll have found it a real challenge to produce a professional profile or bio.
These were just some of the questions that went through my mind, and probably yours too.
Coaches and trainers had me writing 3 different length bios that I could use for any occasion, but in reality, I found myself starting from scratch each time.
Everyone seemed to want something different – a different angle, a different length, for a different audience or a different purpose so even when I’d created 3 different length versions of my ‘standard bio’ they still didn’t always fit the bill.
And yet I know that a good bio is really...
Do you have a pre-presentation routine? Most of the best speakers do – so why not you?
When you prepare yourself both physically and mentally you are so much more likely to deliver your best stuff – and who wouldn’t want to do that?
Here are a few tips to help you. You might want to use all or some of them, depending on the presentation itself, the situation and who is in the audience.
You may even want to go through parts of your presentation in your mind, to consider what movement you need to make in order to reach the room, i.e., will you need to walk from one side of the stage or floor so that everyone can see you, or will it be better to stay central.
For a virtual...
How often do you compare yourself to someone else, only to find yourself lacking?
Maybe someone, or everyone, seems to be more clever or successful than you, to be clearer on what they want out of life and better at working towards it, to have the personality or style you’d like to have?
How can you turn those comparisons around so that you can be more proud to be you?
Of course, we all have our down-days when we slip into ‘it’s alright for them’ thoughts, but how can you raise your self-esteem and to remind yourself of how capable and competent you are?
These things can help:
What would you say to a friend who was self-critical? Say that to yourself.
What are you moving away from and what are you moving towards?
In a world of constant change, we’re always leaving some things behind and bringing in some new. Even a positive change can mean leaving something behind that you’ll miss, and a change you’re less happy to be making can have some benefits too.
You get to choose which to focus on. You can either dwell in the past and regret all those things you’ll miss, and only notice the downsides of the change.
Alternatively, you can embrace the change and notice its benefits. What are you glad to be leaving behind and what are you looking forward to?
It’s human to have regrets, but perhaps you can reframe them into gratitude that those things left behind have been part of your life.
Being open to what lies ahead creates greater optimism and positivity, so which will you choose?
When did you last pay someone a compliment? How did it make you feel?
Compliments are wonderful things because they usually make both parties feel better. When you give someone a genuine compliment it usually lights them up, which in turn lights you up as the cause of that.
Who can you compliment today?
Who do you know who’s really struggling emotionally right now? How might paying them a compliment help you both feel a bit better? Even just saying how well they’re doing or on something they’ve achieved can help.
Or who is sticking to a routine, exercising more than usual, decluttering or spring cleaning their house? They don’t have to be doing anything amazing but it’s still good to have whatever small things they’re doing acknowledged.
What can you find to compliment someone on to help raise their spirits and in turn make you feel good too?
Are you managing to stay sunny side up even though the chips are down?
While we didn’t choose our current situation, we can choose what we focus on.
Is that sunny side up or chips being down for you?
What about the people around you? How are their choices affecting you?
If you’re spending time with someone like that, what can you do to avoid them bringing you down too?
Of course, give them whatever support you can and don’t belittle their feelings, but you don’t have to see things the way they do.
Who else can you spend time around, albeit remotely? Where can you turn for positive inspiration? What books can you read, what activities can you engage in?
In situations like this which are not within our individual power to change, we can always change the way we see things.
How will you stay sunny side up?